We all experience unhappiness from time to time, but chronic unhappiness is different. Chronic unhappiness is almost never experiencing happiness. It can be caused by an addiction to unhappiness, depression left untreated or ignored, etc.
In this article, we’re going to explore chronic unhappiness and the emotional impact it can have on you.
What is chronic unhappiness
Chronic unhappiness is not only a sense of never being happy, but it can also take on the appearance of not wanting to be happy. We all know someone who seems to love to wallow in their own misery, someone who seems to seek out every instance of unhappiness and may even brag about it, thinking it somehow makes them better.
A person battling chronic unhappiness doesn’t want a solution to their problem or even for their problem to be resolved; they just want to stay unhappy. They, for some reason, want to be the most unhappy; that’s why they brag about it.
What causes chronic unhappiness
There are a few things that can lead to this addiction to unhappiness. We’ve listed a few of the most common below.
A lack of self-esteem or deep-rooted insecurities can cause you to feel undeserving of happiness and thus develop chronic unhappiness or an unhappiness addiction. You feel like you have to be unhappy because you don’t deserve happiness.
If your parents held you to unrealistic standards or excessively disciplined you, you may grow up equating unhappiness with success and love. This leads you to seek out unhappiness, thinking it will bring you success and love.
If you’ve struggled excessively with trauma orother negative experiences, you may find yourself addicted to these emotions. They’ve become your normal and so you crave the comfort of your normal unhappiness.
What does chronic unhappiness look like
It can be hard to identify chronic unhappiness, especially in yourself. While it can take many different forms, there are some common tell-tale signs that can help you identify it. The following are common signs that a person is suffering from chronic unhappiness:
- When life gets “too good,” you’re always waiting on the other shoe to drop, looking for unhappiness.
- Compete over who has it worst or the hardest
- Feel dissatisfied when things are going well
- Prefer playing the victim and blame others
What is the impact of chronic unhappiness
A person who suffers from chronic unhappiness will struggle to experience happiness. The emotions set to “normal” in their mind are out of whack. When you’ve lived in chronic unhappiness long enough, you start to register unhappiness as normal and equate it to happiness, love, success, thriving, etc.
This disconnect is very hard to rectify. It leaves you craving unhappiness, seeking it out, and demanding you’re the most unhappy person around. It can cause you to feel enslaved to your emotions and powerless to control or affect any type of change.
Chronic unhappiness and addiction to unhappiness can cause your emotions to be extreme and uncontrolled. It can drive you to chase unhappiness actively, causing you to try and one-up your friends in misery and lash out at those who seem to have it worse than you.
If you struggle with chronic unhappiness, you’re not alone. Many, many people struggle with this mental health issue every day. Once you identify the problem, however, you need to actively work to fix it. If you notice this struggle in your life, talk to your friends and/or loved ones or consult with a doctor or therapist. You can fix these emotional misconnections, but you can’t do it alone.